My Success Mantras
Praise the Lord, with God's grace, I was brought up in a family which was relatively high on compassion and gratitude quotient. As a result, though I too, like most of us, had my share of frustration, failure and disappointments in the course of my life, yet, not-withstanding those hiccups, I was fortunate enough to stay with my peace of mind most of the times.
With all modesty, in run up to my fairly successful life so far, I learnt few lessons on the way, which helped me keep my mind steady. In the process, I built good inter-personal relationship with all the people I came across, learnt to have a holistic overview of any given situation, and worked with keen desire to keep improving on my usefulness to the organization I worked with, and for that matter, for my family , my friends and other people I got to work and interacted with.
Without ever sacrificing my self-esteem, I have genuinely been appreciative of people around me, admired their uniqueness, their talent , their caliber and their intelligence, and sub-consciously kept learning various positive traits I observed in those people. Accordingly, I made conscious efforts in improving on my social skill software , which indirectly added to my usefulness, and which went a long way in improving my acceptability quotient, and in turn helping me achieve my professional objectives.
No envy, no comparison and no hatred for anyone helped me keep myself grounded all the times, and allowed free flow of positivity from all directions.
Till date, I have huge respect for the wonderful people I met in this journey, continue to be in the awe of their aura, and hereunder, I chose to share a set of values I learnt from them and I eschewed in my career too.
So here I go. Since I consumed lot of space in prefix, for the sake of keeping main contents precise, I shall be bypassing basic human etiquette, like smiling disposition, eye contact, firm handshake, empathy for the other person etc., which I believe every educated and well groomed adult knows pretty well.
- Treat everyone you meet, even if it is one-off meeting, as your potential customer and leave him with a good feeling.
- Remember, we all tend to like those people who appreciates us instead of liking those whom we appreciate. Beware therefore, and pull your guard, lest you lose good quality team members.
- Remember, that we are all sure, when we know little; with knowledge doubt increases. So, recheck your numbers/strategy before taking any position.
- Wish silently for everyone whom you meet in your day-to-day routine, while continuing to focus on your goals and objectives.
- Remember, that companies hire you to achieve their goals and objectives, and not to let you nurture your ego, no matter what school/college you passed out and your past experience and ranks. Hold on to your ego, and allow company's objectives and goals drive you.
- When you work for any company, believe as if it's your own company. That shall bring out the best out of you. Or I put that view in a different perspective, viz., if you would have owned that company, how you would have liked your staff to work......should be self starter, knowledgeable, smart worker, multi-tasker, ethical, efficient and responsible to overall objectives of the company. Be that kind of a team-member/worker.
- Remember, you are being watched, and you are going to be role model for lot of younger people who work with you in your team, and therefore indirectly you shall shape and create good and competent future leaders. That's your social contribution to society at large.
- Remember, if you are not a part of solution, you are a part of problem. Keep self-evaluating yourself, and ensure you are always on the right side.
- Train your mind to love your discomfort; for it has the seeds of your future growth. Trust your own instincts and live with that.
- You need to have the faith that the bad things that happen to you can have good outcomes too. Stay with the tide.
- In TV serial, ' Bharat ek khoj', while showing Ramayana, they show a scene where Ravana is lying on his death bed, and Lord Rama tells Lakshmana to go to Ravana, and ask for his wisdom. The crux of what Ravana said, which I shall call the first mantra of life, is that " Whenever you are hurt and wronged by the other person, be in family, by a friend, in the neighborhood or in office space, keep deferring the decision to retaliate or the burning urge to teach the other person a lesson, as much as you can. Remember, strength is in holding back yourself and not in reacting. In the same breath he also said, which I shall call as second mantra over here, is "When it comes to doing a good deed, do not defer that, rather do that immediately, for you may not get a chance to do that good as we all wobble and think twice before doing any good for anyone.
Though this list can go on and on, but lastly, I want to say that while you may continue to be aggressive in working towards your life's goals and objectives, yet you should keep making attempts in training your mind to align itself with compassion, empathy and gratitude in routine life, which indirectly will strengthen your core, increase your staying power, leading to all round success and eternal peace.